Men aren’t the complicated creatures we make them out to be. They, as a whole, have singular tastes in what they look for in women. I’ve interviewed a few men around the city and there are six traits they collectively find attractive in a woman. I’m here to share them with you.
While some of these aforementioned traits will seem like common knowledge, the rest will seem more like it came out of a Destiny’s Child song. One thing you, dear reader, will notice, is that there’s a certain ring of truth with each one of them. Here’s how to be the woman every man wants!
1. Appearances DO matter, but confidence is key
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Yes, it sounds like a conundrum. Men are known to be visual creatures who need their eyes to be pleased before the rest of their bodies can appreciate a lady. Keep in mind that this has nothing to do with weight or body type, as many men are into different sizes of women.
When I say appearances do matter, I mean that a lady needs to be presentable. While many of us tend to wear comfy clothes and skip cosmetic routines when we go out, a lot of us miss out because a lady can meet a potential suitor anywhere.
Now, I’m not saying that you have to dress to the nines to buy groceries. But, leave the yoga pants and sweats at home or in the yoga studio. A man appreciates a woman who takes pride in her appearance. To him, wearing something like sweats tells him you don’t take pride in yourself and that you’re not interested in finding your soulmate.
Alternatively, a man also appreciates a lady who can dress for her body type. This includes women of all shapes and sizes. Men aren’t interested in cookie cutter perfection. If you are a full figured lady like I am, there are beautiful outfits out there that flatter your curves instead of showcasing them the wrong way.
We don’t need to hide behind oversized shirts and baggy pants anymore to look presentable. There are dresses, skirts, jeans, and many different kinds of tops from stores like Torrid and Addition Elle that make us all look great. You don’t need to be a skinny size 0 to look attractive.
Plus, when we feel great about the way we are dressed, we exude confidence. Men LOVE confidence as a trait in a woman. They aren’t interested in the wishy-washy damsel-in-distress lady who constantly needs saving. They enjoy watching a girl take control of a situation.
Confidence doesn’t just come from our appearance either. It’s shown in what we do…it’s shown in what we are passionate about. Don’t be afraid to let your passions be known in what you do. It’s no lie that a woman can do anything a man can do…whether it’s working on a car or being the CEO of a multinational corporation. Follow your heart and let your confidence soar!
2. Independent women rule
Another trait men find irresistible in a lady is independence. For too long they have been expected to pick up the tab for dinner, expensive gifts, and admission to different places. It’s 2016, a time for equal opportunity. There is nothing wrong with being an independent woman. If anything, it’s empowering.
A man enjoys a lady who can pay her own bills and maintain her own finances. The days of the patriarchal society where men are the breadwinners are long gone and we can rejoice in the fact that we can pay for things we couldn’t afford before.
Men lose interest in a lady if she always expects him to pay for everything. There are things that men want to buy for themselves too. A man shouldn’t have to sacrifice saving for his dream house or saving for a new toy for the sake of impressing a potential bride.
It’s time for women as a whole to celebrate the fact that we can earn enough money buy our own expensive items. We can buy our own jewelry. We can buy our own vehicles. We can even buy and rent our own places. When a man sees that we have control over our own lives, he sees a potential wife who can bring out the best in him.
At the same time, though, women should occasionally let their men pick up the tab. If you constantly pay for everything, your man will see himself as an emasculated failure. Give and take is key to the perfect balance in such a relationship.
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